Reading “Body Language”… Are They Interested?

So your out on a date or maybe you are at a party. You are having a conversation with someone that you might be interested in. But how do you know if they hold the same level of interest as you do? Most of the time someone is not just going to come out and say it. Besides, if someone did, they might scare us away. Body language makes up for 60% of communication. So it would be to ones benefit to learn how to read body language.

When it comes to body language a person can say one thing but we read something entirely different. After all, we control the words that come out of our mouths, but on an unconscious level, body language is always the dead give away.

Eye Contact

The eyes are the windows of the soul. Eyes can be a true give away to how a person really feels. Reading eye contact is not a science, but it can certainly tell us a lot about a person. When two people look into each others eyes it arouses emotions deep down inside us. Are they keeping eye contact during conversation? Are they smiling when they do so.

Movement

People naturally tend to cross their arms when they feel uncomfortable or threatened. Though they may not always do this in a traditional arm crossing, there are other was in which a person will guard their hearts when feeling vulnerable or stressed. A man might bring his arm across his body and adjust his shirt or fiddle with his cuff. A women may use one hand to play with a bracelet or a necklace to put up a block.

For the Women

One of the signs that a man is interested in a women is how close he stands to you. When a man leans into your space it is a sure sign that he is intently listening to every word you have to say.

Obvious signs that he is not interested would be if he is looking at his watch, or glancing down at his shoes, or plate of food if you are at a restaurant during the conversation.

One of the signs that a man does when he has interest in a women is, he will raise his eyebrows. I know this sounds odd, but the next time you walk into a room and a guy glances your way, pay attention to this. It is an involuntary reaction that men have. Better yet, the next time you are in a conversation with a man, give this some attention. If he is interested and actively listening to your conversation, watch his eyebrows.

For the Men

-When women flirt they do a whole lot of smiling and laughing.

-Women will boost a mans ego by telling him how wonderful he is or how smart he is.

-If a women flips there hair about or pushes it back this is a good sign she is interested.

Watch the angle of her head. If she is tilting her head ever so slightly and exposing her neck, this is an indicator that she is interested.

If a women reaches out during conversation and gives you a subtle touch she is feeling fond of you.

Reading: “Your Dates Body Language”

1. Notice whether your date exhibits good yet relaxed posture. A slouched date probably isn’t having a good time. A date who’s sitting up is being attentive.

2. Observe whether your date makes good eye contact. If your date keeps looking into your eyes, you’ve got it made.

3. Is your date leaning forward? Then you aren’t a complete stranger anymore.

4. Be aware of any physical contact. Holding hands is a great sign.

5. Notice if your date has his or her palms up, which indicates a friendly warmth.

6. Know that your date is listening to you if he or she nods during conversation; this indicates your words are being heard.

7. Pay attention to whether your date is in sync with you and constantly reflecting your behavior. Does she shift in her seat when you do? Does he pick up your speed and tone when he’s speaking? Are you both breathing at the same rate? This occurs unconsciously and indicates a good rhythm between you – it’s not just a copycat game.

Negative Body Language

1. Take note if your date’s arms are crossed. This suggests there’s a wall between the two of you.

2. Beware if your date is yawning. This is a bad sign – unless it’s because your date was up all night thinking about you.

3. Clue in if your date is nodding too much during the conversation, it means you’re talking to the same wall that was created by the crossed arms.

4. Is your date looking at everything but you? Be worried.

5. Notice if your date is keeping some distance between you. Personal space is one thing, but if your date is not standing next to you, that’s a bad sign.

Learning to read body language takes a bit of practice and a lot of paying attention. But if you give it special attention you can read the signs of a person rather than relying on the words they speak.